Mary and Joseph, party of 6. Why wasn’t there room in the inn? Because Joseph’s family may have already been pretty big. Here is the verse, Matthew 13:55. It is a time when Jesus is in his ministry, so everyone is grown up. It takes place in Jesus’ home town. The people there say, “Isn’t this the carpenter’s son? Isn’t his mother’s name Mary, and aren’t his brothers James, Joseph, Simon and Judas?”
Jesus had four brothers. Some say that Joseph had them with Mary after Jesus was born and others say that Joseph had them from a prior marriage. We don’t know. But it could have been that six people were going to Bethlehem that day that Jesus was born. The manger scene could have been even more crowded with people: Joseph and Mary around the manger while James, Joseph, Simon and Judas played around with the sheep and messed with the shepherds who came to see their little step-brother.
I know it is an odd thought, but it really is the Bible that needs to shape our thoughts about Jesus. Since he had four brothers, they may well have been at the manger.Why were they not mentioned there? Why were they not mentioned as traveling back from Egypt or traveling to or from Jerusalem when Jesus was 12? Because they were not important to the point of the story.
In the manger scene it was important to focus on Jesus, his virgin birth, the fact that his parents had king David for an ancestor and that Mary was in the line of succession. It was not important that Joseph’s kids from his first marriage might have been playing in the hay in celebration of Jesus’ birth.
This helps us to see that when the Bible tells a story from Jesus’ life it is focused on a point. It was not that a big family could not find room in the inn but that Israel’s king was humble and welcomed by the poor.